“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”
-Carl Rogers
The cycle of performing at your best can lead you to demand more and more of yourself. Demanding more of yourself elevates the voice in your head, saying, "you could have done more." You try to "fix" yourself to achieve more in hopes of lowering the volume of the overwhelmingly critical voice in your head. You manage to successfully attain your goal. However, the voice's volume gets so loud that it starts to take a toll on your mental and physical health. You feel depressed and anxious while your body feels the heavy toll of trying to reach perfection and never feeling smart or good enough. The cycle starts all over again. Work hard, perform at your best, reach exhaustion, criticize yourself, attempt to "fix yourself," cry, and start all over again.
But this cycle is becoming more and more challenging to keep up because COVID-19 brought the busyness in your life to an abrupt stop. The busyness that put a lid on the voice in your head, tamed the feelings in your heart, and ultimately froze your body. Moreover, COVID-19 ripped the cover off the little voice in your head and disrupted the way you coped with life leaving you feeling helpless, frustrated, and confused, exposing one of the many internal conflicts that you have tried to avoid.
If my words resonate with you, I want you to know that you are not alone.
"I worked so hard...for this?"
Welcoming healing into your life is reintroducing yourself to your humanity. It is okay to slow down, not try to be perfect, and just be You. I know this because I dived back in and helped my clients to do the same. I was petrified to see my despair and imperfection (what makes us human). However, I discovered that I could slow down and sit with my despair rather than become despair. I have learned and taught my clients to witness that love and light are waiting to hold them.
This type of healing is what I want you to discover in our sessions. I want to help you discover and eventually embody your most authentic self and transform your internal conflict into an internal collaboration. For when life takes another unexpected turn, you're not only relying on your coping mechanisms but also your true self that resides within you and around you.
Specialties:
Anxiety/Depression Burnout
Attachment trauma/wounds Complex/relational trauma and dissociation
Grief and Loss Helper’s Self care
Intergenerational trauma Racialized Trauma
Religious Trauma Perfectionism
Psychedelic Integration Therapy Sexual abuse
PTSD Among others…
The good news is…you don’t have to perform to find yourself.
To gain a better understanding of what Internal Family Systems is, please watch the following video or visit the IFS Institute website https://ifs-institute.com/